Equality is a lie – Understanding this is the basis of all great decisions

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People might not be equal in a certain aspect. But the problem of social inequality arises when those that are privileged tend to regard the entire existence of the less privileged unworthy. Here are some practical behavioural changes that might help to dilute the inequalities.

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Casteism: Let’s lock it indoors!

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The necessity to identify oneself to their caste is a personal choice. However, when we pass down that ‘casteism’ to our legacy, can we be sensitive not to pass down pride, superiority, inferiority, hatred, discrimination, stigmas, or prejudices on any caste for that matter? That’s what this post attempts at, today! That is, can we lock our casteism indoors without spilling it out into the society?

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(Grand)Parents: Shoulders to fall back for Parents and Children

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Grandparenting! I can write a whole series on grandparenting, because on a day-to-day basis, I interact with more grandparents than parents, because it’s mostly the grandparents who bring the children to the play area. Grandparents are an integral part in our Indian family system. They are the bridge connecting children to traditions and family roots. To…

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Humour: Seeing Humour in Children – where it belongs to!

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Babies giggle as we throw them in the air, they laugh as we tickle them and they find our silly faces and sounds very very funny! As I wonder how little children relate and respond to these triggers with humour and amusement, it makes me assume perhaps it is to them that humour belongs, for it is so spontaneous to them. When we reach parenthood and begin to interact with the funny sides of children, we will have to fine tune a balance between not being so rigid about children’s humour and not giving away the originality of our emotions. 

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The Art of Emphasizing Art to Children

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Children like to test what happens when they try to dab paint on the paper, on the wall, floor, books and their own bodies; they like to fill paint boxes with water; they like to colour the doll’s hair, the car wheels and the bedspreads; they like to scribble wherever possible, walls being their favourite; and they like to make colourful footprints and fingerprints anywhere and everywhere. What matters to children is the freedom to explore and experience the medium of art!

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“Amma, Can A Boy Marry A Boy?” asked My Little Boy

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When I say a ‘No’ to my boy’s question, I would only be passing on this ‘error’ in our designs to another generation – the error of prejudice on anything that is not ‘mine’ – thought, belief, custom, value or emotion.

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Understanding Parenting…..

The more our four-year-old boy is learning to express his emotions and thoughts, the more I can relate it all to either the father’s or mine. One day, when I heard him shout for something silly, it pricked me, for I saw me in him. It was a reminder that I need to slow down, get to the ground and supervise my temper. The more I see him mirror one or both of us, the more I understand parenting. That parenting isn’t just the interaction between the parents and the children; but beyond, on a deeper note, parenting is the integration of the family as a whole. 

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Is it necessary to understand Parenting?

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I often ask to myself, if parents can be perfect beings at all times? Doesn’t being mindful of all that we speak and do in front of the kids, restrict us from our spontaneous flow of life? And most importantly, if it is really necessary to understand, contemplate, dissect, dig, and study parenting in order to follow on some parenting rules in our everyday lives?

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Taking Children to the Mountains

Mountains scare me! Be it driving through the curved paths or climbing through the woods, I always hold my breathe until the ordeal is over. As a child, once our family had been to a trip to Mysore. As we started climbing the ghat roads, I remember praying to God at every hair-pin bend, to…

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Why are dads always secondary?

As a dad, if you’ve ever felt secondary to your wife in parenting or even jealous of her prestigious status and felt like banging your head to know the why, the what and the how of this unfair superiority , here are a few inputs from my brain. This is only a compilation from my observation of parents around. There might be much more that men lack as fathers or, on the brighter side, I could be wrong in one or more of my points. However, before you read on, do remember that you are too one among those humans who glorify your mothers a little more than your fathers.

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