Widowhood! Having been contemplating on love relationships for quite a while now, it is hard to be here; on the grave of one of the spouses. In the last two posts, I talked about the final days of the couple together and how the hide-and-seek that death plays on each other can be intimidating for…
In the last post, Until death do us Part, the old couple began to contemplate on death and bereavement. Continuing to speak about death, the couple in their 70’s and 80’s are now passing through the valley of shadow of death (Psalm 23:4). They fear death and certainly fear the death of the partner. Both…
“I hope I go before you.” My parents are 60+ and they are beginning to think about their ends. Though it might not be too close, yet it isn’t too far either. My dad believes (and silently wishes) for my mom to take the turn first. My mom prays and hopes the same; I know…
“Life is not merely a series of meaningless accidents or coincidences. But rather, it’s a tapestry of events that culminate in an exquisite, sublime plan. If we are to live life in harmony with the universe, we must all possess a powerful faith in what the ancients used to call “fatum”, what we currently refer…
As I progressed through the Mr. & Mrs. series, initially it felt boring to write past the 35 years mark. Did I find people older to me, unattractive? Or did I look at ageing less youthful? May be, both. But, as I begin to observe and contemplate on life of older couples, I see a…
One thing I’ve observed in elderly couples is that, irrespective of which of the partners have had the upper hand all along, there comes a stage in their relationship when the wife begins to play the pivotal role in matters of home, family, children, finance and everything. It makes me assume that with ageing, men…
The relationship between the husband and the wife remained awake until somewhere near the late 30s. Post that, it was more about life’s influence on the relationship rather than the relationship itself. Kids, finance, career, health – they’ve had enough come between them that the very little attention they could give to each other’s lives wasn’t fair on life’s part. Perhaps, what started with blazing love and lust is now somewhere in the corner of their everyday lives, forgotten and dumped into the multitude of life demands. Yeah, you both have traveled together almost half a century now, weary of making both ends meet; of the very many commitments and the ceaseless chores day in and day out. Marriage, family, and kids are as stressful as stress-busters they are, aren’t they?
The A to Z Challenge officially closed in April and I am still hanging around in mid May at only half the series. No regrets, may the challenge rest in peace. And may I continue the series on relationships until the Mr. & Mrs. of my series find solace in Z one day! I still…
Around 40 – 45, you might be busy with your career, sorting out your financial goals and planning about retirement solutions. Your growing up teenagers, on one hand, may leave you with a void of having grown-up in a wink’s time and on the other hand, fill you with a budding friendship of an adolescent.…
Where does the relationship with your spouse stand now? In the AtoZ series on relationships, we are nearing or already at our 40s; perhaps married for over a decade now and most possibly living with one or more children. You might have settled in a career. Some might be owning a house. Some might have…